One of my favorite South Park episodes is one called "Raisins", where the boys take Stan to a Hooters-like establishment called Raisins (think about it...) to help him get over his breakup with Wendy. During the course of the episode, Butters falls in love with one of the Raisins girls, mistaking her faux advances for genuine affection.
I usually have a great deal of trouble in the service industry distinguishing general niceness with blatant flirting. Most times I'm out somewhere getting food or whatnot, the cashiers/drive thru people are just doing their job... handing me my food and giving me the company line. But every so often I run into someone who confuses me.
I get so used to people not paying me any mind in public that when someone really gleefully starts to talk to me, it seems weird. If I'm in a Hardee's drive thru and while I'm waiting the nice lady turns to me, flutters her eyelashes and says "You know I love a man who can eat a whole Monster Burger... is that what you ordered? Tee hee!" it throws me off a little. Is this person just one of those overly nice types? Is she flirting and I'm just too dumb to realize it? Should I turn around and propose marriage to her? Is she my soulmate? Did she get my order right?
Now at places where the staff is working for tips, I have no such problems. Anyone being touchy/flirty and over the top nice to you is not smitten with you. They might be a friendly person, sure... but that's what places look for in waitresses. And since they're working for tips, the nicer they are the bigger the tip. I'm no Butters in these situations. I get it and don't let it cloud my big dumb male mind. But I also try to avoid it whenever possible, and even though the show might be nice, I rarely go to Hooters.
Here's where this rather directionless rant is going. Last night at trivia we had an extremely friendly waitress, and all I could think about was Butters at Raisins. She was almost quoting dialogue straight from that episode, saying things like she liked our table the best because everyone else was insulting her by complimenting her hot body (even though she was spending just as much time flirting with those so-called "pigs").
So here's my discussion topic for you. In tipping situations, how does it sit with you when the waitress/waiter is way over the top in the nice department? Do you still tip big? Does it make you angry to the point where you don't tip as much as you might have? After all, it is a bit of deception. She didn't mess up our order or anything... nothing about her job was done wrong. But would the flirty/touchy stuff bother you or entice you?